Heeding a call 04/23/2012
For my entire life I've been drawn to birth work. As a kid, I wanted to be an OB/GYN like Cliff Huxtable. I have an aunt who was an RN in labor & delivery and neonatal and she'd let me borrow her massive maternity nursing textbooks. I watched the shows on cable networks about anything medical but especially those about childbirth. I fantasized of being some twelve year old baby delivering genius. Life continued to happen. I got to college and decided that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life in school so, I thought I'd become a teacher and writer (my other passion). Then one day the financial rug was snatched from under me and I had to leave school. I walked in a funk for a decade because of it but I had a baby, got married, and just existed. Two years ago, I was able to resume my college career. Actually, I started from scratch but that's another story for another day. Today, I'm two semesters shy of completing my degree and had plans to pursue an Master's in Library Science but my passion called again. I don't recall what I was searching for on Google last December but I stumbled upon something about doulas. I know, what is a "doula"? Doula (doo-la) is a greek term meaning "female servant". The purpose is to provide constant support and comfort to women during labor but it has been extended to the entire childbearing year through education and planning. That was a lightbulb moment for me. I instantly began what turned into weeks of research on the work of doulas and training. Although certification is not necessary, many practitioners are opting to gain it as it adds a layer of legitimacy to the trade. I eventually decided to train through Birth Arts International distance program for doula, childbirth educator, and breastfeeding educator. I jazz with their woman-centered, holistic approach. These are all still in process as I continue with my degree coursework and everything else in my life. It has been one of the most solid decisions I've ever made. It just makes sense. I'm even leaning heavily towards midwifery school after completing my degree and taking a little time off from school. In the meantime, I'm trying to build a doula practice in Memphis, TN. I've made some great connections with other local doulas and we've formed a network to make what we do more visible. Some cities are saturated with birth workers and Memphis is just getting acquainted with us. The lone local independent childbirth educator, Sarah Stockwell, has been so generous with her wealth of knowledge and letting me observe her classes for my certification requirements. Everything is falling into place quite nicely. So, stay tuned for mini updates on my journey as I finally heed the call to birth work. And if you're in Memphis and want a doula, check me out here: www.zoleka.com. 2 Comments Eating While Black 04/19/2012
My son, Zion, is a nine year old vegetarian. I'm sure I've mentioned this a time or two before now. I'm a pescetarian (fish eater) and am pretty much limited to salmon. Whenever this comes up in light conversation with other Black folks who are of the same socioeconomic status as my family---poor, let's just be real and clear about that---I always get some of the lamest responses... "My baby can't be a vegetarian. She's gotta have some McDonald's." "My kids would go crazy if all I gave them were vegetables." "Isn't your son always hungry eating only vegetables?!" First of all, this is not a ploy to convert everyone to vegetarianism. Second, he has never wanted meat and I went with it. Now back to my point... I have spoken with numerous parents who proclaim the hell their TODDLERS will raise if they even attempt to change their diet to healthier options instead of the fast food to which they're addicted. Really?! Your child's future and longevity is not worth the tantrum they may or may not throw today? I hate to sound all preachy but Black folks have to get it together. We have to care that we disproportionately represent the obese population and that obesity often causes and/or exacerbates other health issues such as cancers and diabetes. I know that those are words that we've all heard ad nauseam but the problem is too grave to stop repeating them. With our children is where we can make the most effective change so that this stops being such a pervasive issue. If we never give them the crap some of us think they can't live without, they'll never acquire a taste for it. We have to get back into our kitchens and cook real food. And what we do cook, we have to do so properly meaning not overcooking and over seasoning it. As for the parents, the adults, it's never too late to change how and what you eat. Don't wait until a doctor says "it's your diet or your life" to do so. And please know that I'm not coming at you as some "skinny bitch" who has everything together herself. I know what it's like to kill myself softly with food but my son doesn't and hopefully never will. I don't want him to know my struggles with diet and obesity. I no longer want that to be my story and it would be a short one at that. I choose longevity. I want to live. *drops mic* 100 Days Co-Creating My Reality (part 1) 08/01/2011
Mahogany Monday 06/20/2011
Mahogany Monday is a weekly meme hosted at The Mahogany Way. This is how the kid gets down at dinner time. Mahogany Mondays 05/16/2011
Are you a mom of color who breastfeeds, homeschools/unschools, natural births, or live in any way a holistic, natural lifestyle? Join us on The Mahogany Way. DIY Chick: painted coffee table 03/31/2011
I actually only painted the tabletop with two coats. I thought the two toned table would be interesting. The bottom half is still in the original oak stain and in far better condition than the beat up top. Tip to the wise: For small jobs like this, purchase the 8 oz. sample. I got a smallish 29 oz. can for $15. That wasn't too shabby but the sample jar was $3 and would have been plenty just for the tabletop. At least I was smart enough to get a primer & base in one. Clean Green 01/31/2011
I've been slowly transitioning to using more natural products for household cleaning. With a move approaching, I thought that this would be the perfect opportunity to go completely 'green' with my cleaning products. I've been making a natural laundry soap for about two years now and have implemented other commercial products like Seventh Generations all purpose spray cleaner and their dishwashing detergent. My shortcoming has been in the bathroom, however. I was still bleaching the bathtub monthly and occasionally using one of those liquid toilet bowl cleaners that requires venting when used. I know...yikes! But I'm now using my cleaning powers for good. My husband and I went to clean our new place yesterday and I put together a very eco-friendly cleaning kit. I realized after we left the new place that I didn't get that feeling of over exertion and nausea I normally do when cleaning. And with it being an antiquated building we're moving to, I can't imagine adding more chemicals and toxins to the indoor air. What we use white vinegar baking soda Dr. Bronner's tea tree oil castile soap Ivory soap essential oils: lemon, lavender, tea tree Borax washing soda What they do White vinegar acts as an antibacterial agent and can be used, diluted with water, to clean hard surfaces including tile. Dr. Bronner's is a pre castile soap safe for cleaning your home, your clothes, and your person! It comes in liquid and bar form. The liquid is form is great for adding to a vinegar and water mix for cleaning hard surfaces like countertops. It's concentrated so a few drops go a long way. Baking soda, or sodium bicarbonate, is another multipurpose product. It can be used for the body internally and externally. Most importantly, it makes a great scrubbing agent for cleaning tubs, tile, and toilets. It's also great in laundry to freshen garments. Essential oils tend to have antimicrobial and antifungal properties among others that promote a healthy environment. Because they are the natural oils and not manufactured fragrance oils, those wonderful scents don't leave behind unwanted chemicals in the air. Borax is is sodium brate and functions much like baking soda. While not safe for human consumption, it is a great addition to cleaning solutions for natural deodorizing. It's already found in lots of commercial detergents but can be purchased on its own making more eco-friendly. Ivory soap is another brand of castile soap. Castile soaps are simply the purest, gentlest kind of soap one can get. As a bar soap, Ivory is great for making laundry soap. Washing soda (sodium carbonate or soda ash) also acts much like its counterpart, baking soda. It's not safe for human consumption but will soften hard water and boosts the cleaning power of a castile soap in the laundry. How we use it Scrubbing paste: In a plastic bowl, I mixed baking soda, a few drops of liquid castile soap, and water to form a paste for scrubbing the bathroom tub and tile. Floor cleaner: For the kitchen, which is vinyl flooring, I did approximately a 1:3 solution of vinegar to water, a few drops of liquid castile soap, and a 12 drops of lemon oil. For the hardwoods, I did approximately a 1:5 solution of vinegar to water and damp mopped. This was done after sweeping the floors. Again, the mop should only be damp not soaking wet. I used a microfiber mop as I figured the cloth would be great for picking up any remaining dust and not scratch the floors. Hard surface spray: I mixed a 1:4 solution of vinegar to water, a few drops of liquid castile soap, 10 drops lemon oil. Shake vigorously, spray as much as needed and wipe with sponge or cloth. I cleaned the refrigerator, stove, counters, and window sills with this. Other uses: Pour baking soda down the drain and let sit for at least 15 minutes then rinse to freshen sink drains. If you need to quickly get rid of kitchen or bathroom odors, pour vinegar down the drain or let simmer on stove with water. Add 10 - 20 drops of an essential oil like orange, lemon, grapefruit, or lavender to a spray bottle and fill with water for an all natural air freshener. Remember to shake well and can even be lightly misted on furniture and window treatments. What green cleaning tips do you have? De-stress: Coloring for Grown Folks 01/04/2011
Sometimes I like to color butterflies. This one in particular. I thought I was the only grown ass woman doing so but I may be wrong. I stumbled across a site recently just for folks like myself. A site called Color Pages for Mom. It's ad riddled but there are some great "grown up" coloring pages there. Is it silly for an adult to color? At first I thought so, but didn't care. Now, after finding this and several other coloring for adults pages, I see that others realize it's therapeutic. So, if you've had a horrible day at work or your kids or partner have driven you insane, get out some colored pencils or crayons, print some coloring pages, and channel the anger and frustration into a ten minute masterpiece. By the way, colored pencils are my poison (I have two sets). And I don't always wait until I'm stressed to enjoy this creative past time... Happy coloring! A few Coloring pages for grown folks: Color Pages for Mom Adult coloring posters and line drawings Mandalas |






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